An hour with me runs on three parts, and you’ll recognize all three quickly. You talk, and then I talk about as much, because what I notice while you’re talking is the part you can’t do alone.
I explain what’s driving it, in plain language, while it’s still in front of us. Then you go home with a job to do on it before next week.
You’ll come in with whatever’s loudest that month: a decision you keep postponing, a relationship that keeps landing in the same place, an argument you rehearse in the car.
Together, we can explore the experiences and patterns that shape how you see yourself and move through the world.
The real question sits a layer under that one. I’ll ask more questions than you’re expecting, and I’ll say where they’re pointing before you leave.
You get to tell me I’ve got it wrong. Sometimes, you will.
Therapy can help you understand what you need, identify what matters most, and make choices that are more aligned with the life you want to live.
The long middle is where the work happens.
You’ll hear me describe what you’re doing while you’re in the middle of doing it. Uncomfortable, and the fastest route I’ve found.
Most weeks, I’ll send you off with something specific: a chapter I’ve underlined, a conversation to have, a response to try the next time it shows up. I’ll ask about it the following week, and I’ll notice if you skipped it.
Then it starts happening in rooms I’m not in.
You’ll hear yourself about to do the old thing, and you’ll do something else instead, with nobody around to give you credit for it.
Sessions get shorter on content and longer on you telling me things went fine. That’s when I’ll bring up ending, and I’ll bring it up before you do.
The free consultation covers three things: what you want different, where I’d start, and what I’d ask of you between sessions. By the end of it you’ll know whether you want to work this way.
Ask for the free consultation, and open with the decision you’ve been putting off.
My favorite day in your therapy is the day you tell me you don’t need me anymore. I’m aiming at it from the first session.
You’ll get a therapist who says the hard thing instead of waiting for you to find it yourself. What I ask back is short, and none of it is easy.
Do that, and you get to find out which parts of this life you’d pick.
